Dear Diary,
What's new in your world? Because this girl is in a slump. I still think about that Kid I was seeing from time to time. He actually pops up more than I would like but I am not staying home tripping about it. I'm completely open to someone awesome coming into my life. I have been doing my part to be proactive by looking online and going out with my girls as much as I can. However, my time has been compromised lately due to the show I am currently on. It is a low budget film that has been taking my up most of my nights actually it's been taking over my life!! I work in production so my days typically run between 10 and 14 hours. No joke.
I did manage to make it out for a friends birthday at a super cool little bar recently. It was a fun chill night. I was dressed all birthday fancy in a long flirty fun dress. I was drinking and dancing the night away with my homeys. I wasn't crushing on anyone there just hanging with friends. Every time I went outside to smoke the bouncer would flirt with me. He was kinda cute in a rugged motorcycle type of way. I don't know if it was the booze or his charm but by the end of the night I was ready to give him my number. I was totally holding out for him to ask me but I had my clutch "in case your interested" line all ready to go. This tactic has a %100 return rate. I don't use it often. I usually drop it with someone who is in a situation where he is too busy to ask me out. For example- a movie premiere, is working behind a bar, or if he is too shy. Although, as a rule I am not good with shy guys. I kind of eat them up. I only pull it out when I think someone is super cute yet doesn't ask me for my number. There has to be a solid spark. Here is how it works- I write down my number and I hand it to him saying "In case your interested." I give a coy grin and I walk away with my sexy strut. Works every time.
So, that night as I was saying my good byes and getting ready to drop my move, it turned out I didn't have to use it because he ended up asking me for my number. Cool. I got back to my place and was taking off my makeup while getting ready for bed when I got a text. It was Bouncer Guy asking me if I got home safe. I thought that was cute. We texted a couple times and then I crashed.
The next day was Sunday and I slept till noon. When I finally rolled out of bed I got a text from Bouncer Guy saying he was "sorry about crashing out on me last night." I made a joke saying yep that's usually what happens at night... Sleep. LOL. He then proceeded to ask me if I wanted him to come over and "wake me up." I ask him exactly how he planed to "wake me up." He said "he could think of a few ways." Wink Face. Mind you that I have never had an actual phone conversation with the guy. I try to keep it light by making jokes. Yet he keeps trying to get me to let him come over. He tells me it's been a long time since he has had sex. Who says that? He was expecting sympathy I assume? Finally, I get blunt and tell him I am not that kind of girl and if he wants to go out on a date he can shoot me a call but if that's not the case then I am not interested. Guess what? I never heard from the jackass again. Surprised? I met him like 15 hours prior and was wearing a long dress not at all Hollywood Skanky!! It would be one thing if I was looking all sluty, hanging all over him, and he contacted me that night when he got off work while I was still drunk. Not the case here my friend. The fucking nerve of this guy.
No decent guy would think of asking a girl he had just met the night before if he could come by and get busy on a random Sunday afternoon?! Did he really think I would be down to let a total stranger come over to my home on a Sunday afternoon and have sex with me? Clearly this is his move and it works for him. Kinda like mine. Here's the deal- you can't blame a guy for trying. It's not cool and surely not the type of guy I want to be with. But I am more flabbergasted by the ladies in this city for letting this type of behavior go on. What kinda of gal lets a dude pull that shit? If as a whole we all raise our standards of what we allow the guys to get away with maybe we would force the douche bags to nut up and be the men their mama's hoped they would be. Is this asking too much?? Am I reaching for the stars here? No. I don't think so. I decided that I am raising my standards in an effort to lead by example. Wish me luck.
Happy Dating!
PS- I have a date this week with a super cutie southern guy. I will keep you posted with how it goes.
LOVE YA!!
V
Bar pickups are tricky...and for some strange reason, boys in Hollywood think they are in Neverland and can pull this little boy crap. The morning after makes it even funnier! It's happened to me as well, when you think you have a nice conversation...only to get booty text abuse. I guess that's why I keep using the term "boys"...here's to the New Year and loving great MEN :)
ReplyDeletelove ya and good luck with the next!!
can't wait to hear/read all about it ;) xo
~ Trina Nyx
Keep em coming! Some approaches get a 100% return rate because they aren't the proper challenge ;) when you want better quality, the "bait" needs an upgrade...thank you for standing strong and respecting yourself. Women need to learn this lesson and not sneak behind their own backs! Cause you're right, guys know they can get away with it... but then again ;) the guy that stays intrigued after your cute "shutdown" (you do it in such good taste) that's an easy reveal that he may be one you want to keep coming on to you! Have fun and stay sassy classy!
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thanks for your thoughts and comments. i appreciate it. One of these days he will come a long. Like I learned in Cheerleading-I'm just going to keep on trucking "T R U C K keep on trucking all the way!
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